Romantically Paying it Forward

While at my high school reunion on Saturday, an old friend (from hs, obviously) and I reconnected. She was always this super cute, very smart, beautiful beach blonde, California girl and I always secretly envied her (true story). She and I were talking about what was going on in our respective lives and we went a little deeper than the standard "what are you up to these days?" reunion talk.

Long story short, something I had said prompted her to come up to me again and show me a photo of a guy friend of hers (full disclosure it was her boyfriend's brother- not the point but relevant) and ask if I would be interested in meeting him. He was most definitely cute, and something about that moment felt very synchronistic and connecting: almost as though we were looking for each other's best interests. Right then my good girlfriend came up to us and saw the guy too and then it hit me: he was JUST HER TYPE! I started pushing the idea of him for her and because she's polite and slightly risk-adverse, she immediately said no. Ugh.

I still got my friend's contact information in case she changed her mind and sure enough, a day or two later she saw the guy's Facebook profile photo and she admitted that he indeed from first look, is just her type!! I assured her I didn't need or want to meet the guy (despite my own love life currently looking a bit uncertain), I just liked the idea of her meeting someone who could maybe be a great person for her! (She's hot and smart; she's an accountant and has those classic pin up girl looks with a beyond fabulous figure) I urged her to send something to our high school friend that was very casual and from a place of honesty, strength, and curiosity, NOT a shred of self-judgmental desperation! That is really important!! It's TOTALLY OK that she emailed our friend to tell her if she runs her photo by her BF's brother, to give him her information if he's interested and no worries if he isn't.

Result? He has texted her already. They're getting together this or next week, and I am SO EXCITED! She sent me a screenshot of the initial conversation and thanked me for encouraging her to reach out. This is what friends are for, to help encourage you to do right by your best interest, and regardless of how it turns out, it will be a good experience to have.

You have to send out true, heartfelt, gratitude and love despite whatever you're experiencing. Me personally? Truthfully I'm disappointed in my own love life, but I trust it will get better; [life] always does. I didn't let my disappointment get the better of my ego and try to meet the guy just because I wanted some validation or a confidence boost- I trust that whomever I pursue a romantic relationship with can see my worth will want to go out of his way to make me happy as I would for him, annnnnnnd that my gut instinct is always right.

Although my first impression of the guy was "Ooo! He's cute!" my friend came up at that very moment and it hit me that SHE should meet him, I didn't think twice. That's what puts good karma out there, that's why you can count on (some of) your friends, and that's what puts a true smile on my face. She is very excited and I will let you know how their date goes!